This past Saturday evening was the ex-husbands family xmas party. Typically it carries a shorter title BUT there's no naming names here in bloggy world right? Anyway ... we had a great time. My oldest is biologically connected to this family, my youngest is not, HOWEVER, they do embrace them both and it's really very heart warming when you step back and examine it all. Especially if you know all of the ugly history of the ex-husband ... not only on my side and in regards to me and my eldest ... but even on the side of his family ... it's crazy business. They really are a great bunch of loving people. There was plenty of yummy snacks and drinks and desserts ... I love pot luck, mostly because I love variety ... this is directly related to the fact that I can not make a decision to save my life sometimes. We did a regular gift giving event for the little children (there were 5 of them) and a Yankee swap for the adults (and older children). All went well, my ex only spoke to me a few times so that was nice too LOL
Sunday we had a birthday party to go to, I took M along as the 'rents went out for a bit. It was fun, the kids played the grown ups dished about our personal lives ... why not ... we're neighbors ... it's all good. I had errands to run, R wanted to stay home, M wanted to come with ... for the most part she was good but every once and a while she would do something. Like the manner in which she asks for things ... she doesn't ask ... she manipulates you into giving her things she wants. Like she will say "I really love {insert food item}" (if you're cooking, or in the grocery store or driving past your local donut shop). She will also say "I wish I could have ... bla bla" and she will get her wish. Now this doesn't fly with me BUT it does with the other two or three people that are her guardians during the day. It's so frustrating ... OH and the other thing is when she sees a hard candy dish or container or cough drop bag she will start coughing and claim to have a sore throat. Now ... okay I know she is only three and as I type this out it's all sounding very cute and WOW what a smart and manipulative lil thing ... but it's awfully hard to deal with when I've explained to her that it's lying if she says something and it's not true. Don't start coughing and telling me your sick when you're not. I try to explain it's lying ... try to explain ... just ask for it and I'll be happy to dish out what ever your heart wants ...with in reason and when warranted ... ugh ... it doesn't stick.. So all that on top of her pinching her sister, lying about her sister taking things from her and not listening to her sister when requesting that M get off her ... it was a minimuly stressful Sunday.
And now of course I'm feeilng bad for how I dealt with it ... maybe it's more so that I feel bad that I had to deal with it ... I didn't do anything rash, nothing drastic. She had a few time outs, had to clean her room a couple times, say sorry to her sister ... what evs ... ugh ... I just feel guilty .... maybe that I'm not around as much as I should in order to steer her in the right direction. Maybe that's what it is ... ah well ... I'm off school for the next three weeks AND one of those weeks I am off from work. R has surgery on the 29th, I am off that week, the first two days of the week we are going to be hitting the Time To Clay place and going out for a daughter/mumma dinner ... I am looking forward to the time off ... hope R takes the surgery well. Hope M takes it easy on her that week.
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